Rory Gowers & Milan Nitopi
This article is Part 1 of 3 in our series ‘Informed, Involved, Inclusive’.

Every culture is in conflict; and, we are all moderated by cultural norms and expectations. Where there is more cultural diversity, there is a greater chance for misunderstanding and an escalation of conflict.
In the context of meditation, facilitators who are not equipped with the necessary intercultural competencies risk undermining that process, which can contribute to difficult or unproductive communication and dialogue. Although competencies standards exist (such as the Intercultural Competence Specialisation by the International Mediation Institute), facilitator training in intercultural predisposition is limited.
We presented our proposition to counter this serious gap in mediator development at the 12th Conference World Mediation Forum – Foro Mundial de Mediación in Brazil in November 2024 in our address: ‘Informed, Involved, Inclusive: A New Chapter In Intercultural Competence’. The Mastering Intercultural Mediation Implementation (MIMI) training program is based on three core foundations:
- Informed,
- Involved, and,
- Inclusive.
MIMI is a specific application of the my-RESPECT-ability model which entails the intercultural mediation principles, processes, and practices at the heart of the Intercultural Competence Playbook (Gowers 2023).
Visit my-RESPECT-ability to read more on the model or to enrol in introductory webinars.
In developing the MIMI training program we explored intercultural research concepts and approaches (including Dai & Chen, Sveiby & Skuthorpe, Gowers) as well as drawing on our combined lived experience and extensive mediation practice. Rory has lived in over 7 countries and brings insights from over a decade of real-life intercultural mediation practice (in public, private, and voluntary sectors).
Becoming interculturally competent is more than an intellectual and mindful journey. Therefore we decided it is crucial to centre our training model on participant transformation. As participants become more aware, more accepting, and more appreciative of an ‘other-culture’, they begin to develop competencies which enable them to facilitate intercultural interactions effectively.
An ‘other-culture’ is a class, community or sub-culture of any kind (social status, ethnicity, spiritual, gender identity, wealth, occupation, species, etc.) that is so different that it reveals in you a sense of personal discomfort or powerlessness (such as fear or anxiety or a capacity to interact). It is the feeling of being a total foreigner, in contrast to the feeling of being a relaxed tourist. It may be experienced as a feeling of alienation. This is what people from an other-culture experience when they enter into a new, dominant culture where they lack the capacity or the social skills to interact or negotiate on a level playing field.
Foreigner. 外人 Gaijin. 鬼佬 Gwáilóu. Stranieri. Gudiya. Alien.
The word ‘gudiya’ refers to non-Indigenous people in the context of Aboriginal-English. Indigenous Australians adapted English to communicate with non-Indigenous people after their traditional languages were stolen and is a variety of English, distinct from Australian English.
There are many words to refer to an ‘outsider’ and we all have experienced this feeling at some point in our lives.
Communication and dialogue is an essential and fundamental aspect of mediation, but how do we consider this through the lens of the three cultural motifs:
- the Eastern “We”
- the Indigenous “Be”
- the Western “Me”
In a Western context, ideals such as self-determination and non-partisanship (including neutrality and impartiality) are often discussed as being critical to an effective mediated outcome. But what do these aspects actually mean with consideration of other-cultures?
Whereas in an Eastern context, the ideal of achieving harmony appears critical to an effective mediated outcome. And, in an Indigenous context, ideals of responsibility and collective existence appear critical to an effective mediated outcome. Yet the Western understanding of ‘mediation’ does not translate well with ideals belonging to other-cultures.
We see here that ethical practice is shaped by varying culturally embedded needs and these needs are not exclusive to just one specific cultural perspective. In the context of communication and dialogue, they illustrate the interests, needs, concerns, and expectations of other-cultures. Unless a mediator is interculturally aware, accepting, and appreciative of other-culture perspectives and ethical frameworks, their ability to facilitate effective and enduring outcomes is significantly diminished.
Where all parties to an intercultural dispute are able to express and address their interests, needs, and concerns in culturally relevant ways, then a more creative, sustainable, and harmonious outcome can be achieved.
Mastering Intercultural Competence
Our intercultural competence training model is built on three foundations:
- Informed
- Involved
- Inclusive
Foundation 1: Informed (awareness)
The first foundation is focused on being better informed. By being better informed, we are led to an increased awareness. And, to be better informed we must turn our minds to the facts, feelings, and findings of intercultural research.
This foundation is a structured learning process centered on establishing the baseline knowledge of intercultural competence.
As it has been observed that a person’s experience of other-cultures is both an intellectual and mindful journey, knowledge of an other-culture is not itself enough to develop intercultural competence. Although the International Mediation Institute sets out the minimum standards for intercultural competence specialisation and set the pathway for internationally accepted mediation principles, we recognised that more was required in order to have a complete and comprehensive understanding of an other-culture.
In a Western context, unless we become aware and address our own inner conflict, we are unable to take a ‘balcony view’ of others’ conflict. By failing to adopt a balcony view, we lack impartiality and neutrality; concepts that are cornerstone to Western facilitative mediation practice. However, within other-cultures, a different approach might be taken.
Foundation 2: Involved (acceptance)
The second foundation is focused on being more involved. By being more involved, we are led to a greater acceptance of other-cultures. And, to be more involved we must immerse ourselves within an other-culture and listen to their stories, songs, and symbols.
We created this foundation to allow participants the opportunity to develop a deeper understanding of the other-cultures needs, values, and expectations by providing a full other-culture immersion program. This foundation is the heart of our training model.
This immersion program is crucial as participants must initially feel uncomfortable and confronted with unfamiliar aspects of an other-culture. This makes for a more profound intercultural learning experience. It is ourselves actually undergoing the change where we arrive at a deeper level of understanding and respect for other-cultures and their voice at the ‘table’.
As it takes time to begin immersing ourselves in an other-culture, some participants may elect to extend their immersion program to develop an even deeper understanding of the other-culture that they immersed themselves in.
Immersion is more than assimilation with, or imitation of, the other-culture. In their experience, participants learn respect for the values, needs, and expectations embedded within those other-cultures. It is to understand and accept that our eyes are but only one perspective in the world and that there are many eyes which look upon the face of this earth differently. All perspectives are valued.
Unlike how the International Mediator Institute Standards emphasise mediator proficiency of a particular culture and advocates for cross-cultural application, our approach is focused on competence in intercultural interaction.
To be cross-cultural is not to be intercultural. They are different. ‘Intercultural’ is described by Paula Schriefer as:
“communities in which there is a deep understanding and respect for all cultures. Intercultural communication focuses on the mutual exchange of ideas and cultural norms and the development of deep relationships. In an intercultural society, no one is left unchanged because everyone learns from one another and grows together.”
Foundation 3: Inclusive (appreciation)
The third foundation is focused on being more inclusive. By being more inclusive, we are led to a greater appreciation of other-culture’s wisdom, needs, and ways of working with conflict. And, to be more inclusive, we must turn our minds to choosing the most appropriate principles, processes, and practices of intercultural mediation for that culture.
We created this foundation to allow participants the opportunity to further develop their intercultural mindset and heart-set behaviours. A participant is to adapt their current core principles, practices, and processes to the interests, needs, concerns, and expectations of the other-culture they immersed themselves in.
By putting learnings and reflections into practice, participants are able to accurately identify and address communication and dialogue issues within an intercultural context. This can be achieved with case studies or role play exercises.
Authors Biography
Rory Gowers is a Master of Dispute Resolution (MDR), a Master of Education (MEd), an intercultural mediator, and a business strategist, residing in Greater Sydney, Australia. Rory has extensive international experience as a visionary business problem solver, and certified results coach. Rory’s mission is to facilitate a more respectful world by inspiring people and groups to transform business ecosystems with practical sustainable solutions with a vision to facilitate a place for all and peace for all in our time. Contact Rory via
Webpage: www.myRESPECTability.com
Email: rory.gowers@gmail.com
Mobile: +61 425 292 811
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/constructiveconflictsolutions
Milan Nitopi is an accredited lawyer and mediator with (soon) a Master of Laws in Family Dispute Resolution (LLM FDR). Milan has a passion concerning people, law, and resolution and he strives to equip people with skills for better communication and dialogue to address all kinds of conflict.
Contact Milan via
Email: manitopi@outlook.com
Mobile: +61 432 547 538
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/manitopi/

