Responding to @Massimiliano Ferrari’s recent post sharing @Dr. Anna Maria Bernard’s powerful insights about digital conflicts in Basilicata. Here’s what we’re seeing as Medianos spreads globally…

Massimiliano Ferrari’s sharing of Dr. Anna Maria Bernard’s insights from Basilicata Region perfectly captures what those who understand transformation are witnessing worldwide – the emerging need for approaches that naturally dissolve digital-age conflicts. Dr. Bernard’s experience with Medianos confirms what you may already be sensing as this remarkable method continues spreading across continents.

She writes about how “digital conflicts are the order of the day” and as you consider this, you might recognize the truth in her observation. Just last month, I watched a CEO and his teenage daughter discover something profound as they sat across from each other, both having believed the other “just doesn’t get it” about screen time boundaries. Traditional mediation would have had them negotiate rules and compromises. But what happened next was something that transforms everything.

In the past, families like theirs relied on authority-based solutions that inevitably left children feeling unheard and parents feeling frustrated. When conflicts arose over homework, curfews, or device usage, conversations naturally escalated into battles of will rather than becoming opportunities for deeper understanding. The tools available were limited to expensive counseling, theoretical parenting books, or time-consuming mediation processes that few families could access or sustain effectively.

Then the digital revolution changed everything, didn’t it? As Dr Bernard observes, we’re dealing with conflicts our parents never imagined: How much screen time creates balance? What about online privacy and safety? How do we manage social media wisely? The generational digital divide widened as children became native users while parents struggled to keep pace with change. These “digital conflicts” became daily occurrences, with the adolescent brain still developing and naturally impulsive constantly stimulated by digital temptations that multiply exponentially.

What she discovered in Basilicata, you’re now beginning to see replicated across Europe and beyond. Medianos – The Game isn’t just resolving these conflicts; it’s fundamentally transforming how families, schools, and even workplaces naturally approach disagreement.

That CEO and his daughter? Within two hours of facilitated gameplay, something remarkable began to unfold. By “playing” each other’s roles in a safe, structured environment, they started to understand perspectives they’d never allowed themselves to consider. The daughter experienced the weight of parental responsibility for digital safety, and the father felt the frustration of being constantly monitored and distrusted. When they returned to their original roles, their conversation had completely shifted – from positional bargaining to collaborative problem-solving that felt surprisingly natural.

This is the power Dr Bernard wrote about when she described how Medianos allows participants to “go beyond the conflict and enhance what you feel at the level of emotions, thoughts and behaviours.” And what’s truly exciting is how rapidly this approach continues spreading globally, creating transformation wherever it goes.

Created by Massimiliano Ferrari and supported by a rapidly expanding community of Ambassadors, Medianos is spreading across the world at unprecedented pace, and as it does, more people are discovering its effectiveness. Recent weeks have seen new Ambassadors recognized across Italy, Canada, France, Spain, Brasil, Latvia, Ecuador, and Albania.

I, Rory Gowers, as the newly appointed Australasian Medianos Ambassador and creator of the My-RESPECT-Ability negotiation framework, am curious to discover how this face-to-face board game experience will resonate with digital natives here in Australasia while delivering the profound results Dr Bernard described.

The game format creates what she calls “a safe, secure, and stimulating environment” where participants naturally develop genuine empathy through facilitated face-to-face interaction. Communication skills emerge organically as players learn active listening and assertive expression without it feeling like traditional training. Hidden needs surface safely as the game reveals unexpressed fears that fuel conflicts. Most importantly, players develop what I call “respect-ability” the expanding capacity to engage respectfully even during difficult conversations.

Dr Bernard’s observation that “gaming experience with Medianos was pivotal in translating theoretical concepts into practical skills” captures exactly why this approach succeeds where traditional methods struggle. In our screen-saturated world, bringing the power of gaming back to physical interaction creates genuine human connection that digital experiences simply cannot replicate.

The transformation extends far beyond individual families, doesn’t it? As she noted with the teachers in Basilicata who were “fascinated by the educational and formative opportunity,” we’re witnessing schools, workplaces, and communities naturally develop cultures of respectful engagement. When conflicts become catalysts for deeper understanding rather than relationship damage, entire organizational cultures begin to shift.

Imagine, if you will, boardrooms where disagreements become opportunities for innovation rather than positional battles. Picture classrooms where teachers and students collaborate through understanding rather than authority. Envision families where generational divides bridge naturally through shared gaming experiences that honour everyone’s perspective completely.

This is the future Dr Bernard glimpsed in Basilicata – and it’s spreading globally with increasing momentum. Her closing question resonates deeply, and you might find yourself wondering: “What strategies are you using to manage digital conflicts in the family or at school, or in the workplace?”

The answer, increasingly, is becoming Medianos – The Game. We’re actively preparing for launch in Australasia in Quarter 4 2025, bringing this proven approach to a region where digital conflicts are as prevalent as anywhere in the world, and where solutions are needed most.

As Dr Bernard concluded, “Open dialogue, empathy, emotional intelligence education and novel tools like Medianos are the key to transforming ‘digital conflicts’ into opportunities for growth and deeper bonds.” The enthusiasm she witnessed in Basilicata is now spreading across continents – one family, one school, one workplace at a time, creating lasting change.

For more information about bringing Medianos to your organisation or community, reach out to MyRespectAbility or respond to the post directly and discover what becomes possible.

What strategies are you using to transform conflict into connection? Join the conversation below and share what you’re discovering.

Author Biography

Rory Gowers is a Master of Dispute Resolution (MDR), Master of Education (MEd), certified Master NLP Practitioner, and intercultural mediator with deep experience leading transformative change across global business and community settings. Based in Greater Sydney, Australia, Rory helps leaders and organisations replace conflict cycles with clarity, cooperation, and lasting resolution.

As the founder of The Constructive Solution, Rory applies structured, values-based methodologies to resolve complex interpersonal and systemic challenges—especially in high-stakes environments like construction, government, and professional services. His work produces measurable outcomes: reduced rework, improved trust, and faster decision-making.

He also leads Mastering Intercultural Mediation Initiatives (MIMI)—a high-impact executive program that equips senior leaders to build inclusive, high-functioning ecosystems by mastering cultural agility and conflict competence.

Now, Rory is bringing the internationally acclaimed Medianos – The Board Game to Australasia. As the official Australasian ambassador, he introduces this dynamic, play-based tool to transform how professionals learn and practise negotiation, mediation, and respectful engagement.

Rory’s mission is clear: to grow respect, resolve conflict, and realise the shared vision of a place for all and peace for all in our time—by guiding people and systems to adopt practical, repeatable solutions that build trust and deliver sustainable results.

Contact Rory:
🌐 Web: www.myRESPECTability.com
📧 Email: rory.gowers@gmail.com
📱 Mobile: +61 425 292 811
🔗 LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/constructiveconflictsolutions